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I. Give your own definition of ‘friendship’. Then compare it with the one stated in the dictionary.
I. Give your own definition of ‘friendship’. Then compare it with the one stated in the dictionary.
II. Dwell on the following quotations about friendship:
Anybody can sympathise with the sufferings of a friend, but it requires a very fine nature to sympathise with a friend’s success.― Oscar Wilde
It’s the friends you can call up at 4 a.m. that matter.
― Marlene Dietrich
― Marlene Dietrich
Friendship is delicate as a glass, once broken it can be fixed but there will always be cracks.
― Waqar Ahmed
― Waqar Ahmed
Don’t walk behind me; I may not lead. Don’t walk in front of me; I may not follow. Just walk beside me and be my friend.
― Albert Camus
― Albert Camus
Wishing to be friends is quick work, but friendship is a slow ripening fruit.
― Aristotle
― Aristotle
II. Read the article and answer the questions:
Inappropriate Friendships
People You Shouldn’t Be Friends With
Having a variety of friendships is a generally a good thing, but there are definitely some people you shouldn’t attempt to be friends with. These people include those in certain positions of trust, professionals you interact with, or folks who are responsible for you on some level. For these types of people, it’s better to remain a friendly acquaintance than someone you’d consider an actual friend.
Types of Inappropriate Friendships
Some of the people you should avoid friendships with include your:
- Teachers
- Child’s teachers
- Babysitter
- Tax preparer
- Doctor, nurse, pharmacist, dentist, or anyone who serves your medical needs
- Financial reps or bankers
These folks need to interact with you on a professional level, and even if they get to know you over time, I wouldn’t advise trying to move their friendship to the next level. Keep them as a friendly acquaintance, and leave it at that.
Definition of Friendly Acquaintance
Even though you shouldn’t friend one of the people listed above, you should remain on friendly terms. We call this being a «friendly acquaintance,» which means that you are cordial and pleasant, but you don’t:
- Friend them on Facebook
- Follow them on Twitter
- Invite them to parties
- Call them up to chat about personal things
- Tell them too many personal details
- Socialize with them
Why It Is a Bad Idea to Friend Certain People
For certain professionals (like doctors and teachers, for example), friending a patient or student would be crossing a line that could lead to confidentiality problems, misunderstood communication, or the perception of impropriety. If you’re on the opposite end of this scenario, however, it’s also a bad idea. There should be a clear distinction in the boundaries of your relationship that a friendship would definitely cross.
Moreover, you can never really be yourself with someone you also see on a professional basis. The very nature of the professional relationship would add judgment and perceptions to your friendship that would make it very hard to conquer. It’s better to leave these people to your professional world, and seek out other people that you can have a strong and healthy friendship with instead.
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1) Why does the author think it is a bad idea to be friends with certain people?
2) According to the author, what does ‘a friendly acquaintance’ mean? What is the difference between ‘a friend’ and a ‘friendly acquaintance’?
3) Do you agree with the author? Why/ why not?
III. Discuss the following:
- Do you prefer to have many friends or just a few that you are close to?
- What are the benefits of having just a few close friends? How about the benefits of having many friends?
- Describe your best friend.
- Are you close friends with anyone who you knew in elementary school?
- Why do people need friends? What can happen if a person has no friends?
- What is the biggest thing you have done to help a friend?
- Do you have any friends who would risk their life to save you?
- Would you risk your life to save a friend? How about a stranger?
- What kind of qualities do you look for in a friend?
- What is the best way to make new friends? Do you like making new friends?
- Do you think sites like Facebook are good for friendships or do they stop people from becoming close?
- How did you meet your best friend?
Read the problems. What would you advise these people to do?
I don’t know why but my mom doesn’t like my new group of friends at all. They are nice people and I have a lot of fun with them. But my mom is very doubtful of them. I’ve even invited my friends over for my mom to meet them so that she feels more comfortable but no. Nothing has changed.
Every time I go out with them my mom becomes very suspicious of me saying I might be smoking and drinking!
Please help! What do I do?
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My best friend got married two years ago but due to severe medical complications, she is unable to conceive. They have consulted all doctors but no luck. I suggested her to opt for surrogacy and she immediately requested me to be a surrogate mother and carry her baby.
I am so confused because I know my parents won’t allow me to do this. They feel it would ruin our friendship forever. But I cannot say NO to my best friend either in such tough times. Pls suggest me what should I do? Is there anything wrong in this?
I am so confused because I know my parents won’t allow me to do this. They feel it would ruin our friendship forever. But I cannot say NO to my best friend either in such tough times. Pls suggest me what should I do? Is there anything wrong in this?
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I always share my best kept secrets with my mom and discuss the most complicated matters of life with my dad, as I think they give me the best advice and solution. But my friends tell me it’s not a good idea.
I hear a lot of people saying that you should never trust your parents with secrets and personal matters. Is this true? I consider my parents as my first friends and that’s why I am quite open with them. What do you think? Can you be friends with your parents?
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